Of course I knew that becoming a mum would change my life. I knew that it would come with new struggles and challenges every day and that my life was about to change. But I also thought that no matter how many cliché bits of advice I received, I was as prepared as I could be. Little did I know I’d be making mistakes left, right and centre. Here are 10
hopefully relatable mistakes I’ve made over the last 5 months.
- Lost my temper. I’ve been annoyed with Ayala more times than I’d care to admit. When I’m in the middle of a 2000-word assignment, I haven’t slept in 36 hours, I have a migraine from excessive consumption of caffeine and she screams for screaming’s sake, I get angry. Then I get angry at myself because I feel angry at her. I know she can’t control being upset but the stress of being a full-time student and a new mum is real.
- Acted over-protective. Rationally, I know I’m not the only person who can care for Ayala. Louis is more than capable of looking after her just as well as (and sometimes better than) me. But there have been those times, especially in the beginning, where I’ve wanted nothing more than to be the only person in charge. What if he doesn’t wind her properly? What if he holds her wrong? What if she notices I’m not there?
- Mummy guilt. I could (and probably will) write 1000 blog posts about this. It’s the bane of my fucking life. Every single thing I do comes with an abundance of what ifs and whys. I wish I trusted my own instincts more and stuck to my guns when I made decisions about what’s best for Ayala.
- Infacol. While we’re being honest, I may have dipped her dummy in Infacol once or twice to get her to sleep on those nights where she really won’t settle.
- Jealous of other babies. Don’t get me wrong, social media can be an amazing support system for new parents. But it can also turn into a competition and I’ve been known to get slightly jealous over other babies doing things before Ayala and I’ve seen other mums get so nasty over it. Oh, your baby can sit up at 6 months? Well mine could do it at 4 months and she just started crawling. Yeah well MINE came out crawling. *massive mum eyeroll*
- Buying too much. I’m blaming this one on all of the gorgeous companies that I’m a brand rep for over on my Instagram. I buy clothes for Ayala at least 3 times a week. I can’t help it though, they’re all so tiny and cute.
- Taking advice. Sometimes, you just know your baby and your body best. I wish I hadn’t listened to my health visitor when she told me combination feeding wasn’t possible- I might still be breastfeeding now if I’d given myself that option. I wish I’d told people to shut up when they told me to sleep when the baby sleeps.
- Not taking advice. Other times, I’m too stubborn. I should have listened when people told me I was doing too much too quickly. I shouldn’t have tried to force myself to be so busy straight after my c-section. I should have taken a break when people suggested. I also should have read the instructions on our Tommee Tippee Perfect Prep Machine, instead of just winging it (and doing it wrong).
- Not managing time. I wish I’d tried to stick to a better schedule, especially with balancing uni and looking after Ayala, instead of leaving all of my revision until last minute. I know I work best when I have a clear weekly plan but I ended up doing everything on Ayala’s clock instead of my own.
- Lack of self-care. When I’d first had my c-section, my entire focus was on looking after my baby and not myself. My mental health wasn’t great and I struggled more than I needed to. I know now that if I’m not the best person that I can be, then I’m not the best mum that I can be and sometimes it’s okay to prioritise myself.
Leave some of your mummy regrets and mistakes in the comments and if you found mine relatable, give this a share!